Proverbs has great advice for us moms on teaching our kids: make it fun! Okay, well it doesn’t exactly say “fun”, but it does say “pleasant” or “sweetness of speech” which I take as words that are enjoyable to our kids. Here are some of the Proverbs I’ve found on this subject:
- “The wise are known for their understanding,and pleasant words are persuasive.” (16:21)
- “From a wise mind comes wise speech; the words of the wise are persuasive.” (16:23)
- “Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” (16:24)
Discipline and instruction is so incredibly important that we need to be careful how it comes across to our kids. I know it’s not always going to be fun, but I think it’s much easier to lecture and nag than it is to take the time to speak pleasant, constructive, persuasive words. That takes some thinking…it’s not easy to instruct in this way.
Think too of how you respond to reproof and advice from others. It’s much more palatable when the advice is given in a humble, “I’ve been there too” approach than with a “You’ve got it all wrong and I’m going to straighten you out” attitude. My husband is good at giving advice and sharing life lessons this way. Talk to your children the way you would want to be talked to. Don’t be demeaning or condescending. As I write this, I’m thinking about what a challenge it will be…I’ll have to report back on how it’s going!